- Paperback: 304 pages
; Dimensions (in inches):
0.80 x
8.20 x
5.40
- Publisher: Fireside;
(April 30, 2002)
- Average Customer Review:
Based on
37
reviews.
- Amazon.com Sales Rank (Book):
#340094
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Product Description
THIS CONTROVERSIAL APPROACH TO DATING HAS GIVEN THOUSANDS OF SINGLE WOMEN EVERYTHING THEY NEED TO ATTRACT ROMANCE, INTIMACY, AND A MARRIAGE PROPOSAL.Surrendered Single doesn't have to look for Mr. Right -- she attracts him. The principles presented in The Surrendered Single are simple: When you try to control who asks you out and when a man will call, or if you try to corner him into a commitment, you drive him away. When you let him woo you instead, you enjoy the pleasure of being pursued. You feel confident and feminine. Dating becomes fun again. Marriage follows. You stop going it alone.
Practical and compassionate, The Surrendered Single is a step-by-step guide that shows you how to:
- ASK MEN TO INVITE YOU OUT SO THAT YOU ALWAYS HAVE A DATE
- AVOID THE REMORSE OF "I WISH I HADN'T SAID..."
- BECOME YOUR BEST SELF AND ATTRACT GOOD MEN
Whether you're recovering from a breakup or a divorce, are on the dating scene, or want your romance to deepen, The Surrendered Single will bring you the relationship you desire with a man you love -- and who loves you.
Cast your fears aside, ladies: in this case, "surrendered" doesn't mean "doormat"--which is not to say that
The Surrendered Single might not raise a few eyebrows. Laura Doyle (
The Surrendered Wife) has some pretty insistent basics for women on the dating circuit that may not always sit well with modern feminists. Don't ask him out? Throw out your mental checklist of what you want from a mate? Smile openly at every man you pass on the street? Expect that he'll pay for dinner?
Yep. And according to those who have already surrendered, this old-school stuff works. The book is easy to read; entertaining dating stories are mixed with lots of bullet-pointed lists focused on self-esteem ("good self care is attractive") and myth debunking ("no one respects flirtatious women") that range from truly helpful to slightly simplistic.
Following Doyle's techniques may require a fair amount of modification on your part, but her ideas are aimed at opening yourself up to a loving, stable relationship, rather than simply angling for that ring on your finger from whatever deer you've caught in your matrimonial headlights. If you think it's time to implement some changes in your dating routine, you may find just what you need by "surrendering." --Jill Lightner
Featured Customer Reviews
*finally* a book on the single life that i can embrace,
October 06, 2008
the advice in doyle's book is practical and it makes sense. normally i've found that the "practices" suggested in dating books to be pretty absurd or unreasonable. that is not the case with this book. get it, it's probably the only advice you'll need as a single woman.
A Revelation,
July 15, 2008
I've always considered myself an intelligent, sensitive, and practical woman, with many talents and abilities. I have had several successful and even glamourous jobs in the arts and in publishing. In contrast to my professional accomplishments, my relationships with men have been unmitigated disasters. Absolutely clueless about men and what they need, I ruined my relationships with fear, self-pity, mistrust, and the need to prove my independence and personal excellence. I also tried to control men by demanding proofs of affection, and often men would end up doing exactly what I feared most: leaving me or cheating on me.
I am now much wiser for having read this book. By applying this book's principles, for the first time I have an adoring, appreciative, and affectionate man. He seems to delight in taking care of me and making me happy. I'm thrilled that Doyle's practical concept of conscious serenity has worked so well, and I sincerely recommend this book to all women who want to win a good husband.
This book is a gem,
April 10, 2008
It's hard to put into words everything I've gained and continue to gain from this book. This book is very special and so refreshing...it has taught me to be charming and flirtatious but graceful...my whole attitude towards men has changed, I'm more approachable and I don't feel confused about how to date and how to act anymore. I feel way more open and I feel like I've become more charismatic and open and I feel better about myself. I bought a copy for my best friend and she is loving it too.
It makes you examine your negative attitudes toward dating, men, and marriage because they are holding you back. It also shows you how to let men ask you out instead of chasing them. In the beginning of dating it is important that the guy asks you out but there is a way to ask him to ask you...she explains that. It seems so silly but I tried it and it worked [update: and I now have a great boyfriend thanks to this book :)]
I think us girls get confused about how to do this, and in a graceful way not in a playing games way. It's gotten awesome results dating and getting good guys, guys that are respectful to date me using her pointers.
This book truly is a gem and worth your time! I wish I had read it years ago! Try it it *will* work.
This book works!,
January 13, 2008
A friend highly recommended this book to me, and I was reluctant to buy it because of the title. However, I've come to love this book, and I'm not even finished reading it. Doyle's advice is right on the mark. The very first day I tried some of her advice, I was approached by an attractive man many years younger than me. Normally, I would not have given him an opening to do so and would have considered him far too young for me, but by taking Doyle's advice (it's simple and fun -- smile!!!), I met someone really intelligent, interesting, and exceptional. And this was on the first day! The best part was that I was not in any way nervous like I normally would be. I just went with Doyle's advice to let him approach me -- all I had to do was give him an opening and decide whether I liked him once he did. And because I'd been smiling at guys all day (with nearly all of them smiling back), I felt confident and relaxed, and knew that if this one didn't work out, someone else would. I wish I'd known all this years ago!
Genuinely helpful,
January 12, 2008
It's rare that I give five stars to any book. It really has to have given me helpful and useful insights, which in this case, this book did both. Yes, there's some common sense stuff, but a lot of it is just how the author approaches the topic. I'm one of those independent tough cookies who has done quite well at not being vulnerable. I tend to scare men off pretty easily because I'm too busy protecting myself from the jerks that the nice guys that I'd like a shot with don't know what to make of me. This book has taught me how to let my guard down and stop being that tough cookie. I'm not even done with it (about 1/4 of it still left to read) and all I can say is Laura Doyle really hits the bullseye with this one. If you ever wondered why men haven't been approaching you or asking you out, read this. I promise, that will change. It already has for me, and I've only been reading the book for a week!
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