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Better Single Than Sorry: A No-Regrets Guide to Loving Yourself and Never Settling by Jen Schefft from William Morrow List Price: $21.95 Our Price: $6.99 (Save 68%) Availability: Usually ships in 24 hours Shipping rates and policies

Hardcover: 288 pages (January 23, 2007) ; Dimensions (in inches): 1.20 x 8.50 x 5.70 Publisher: William Morrow; (February 01, 2007) Average Customer Review: Based on 23 reviews. Amazon.com Sales Rank (Book): #116177

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Let's be honest. No woman really wants to be alone for the rest of her life. But does being alone mean you're doomed to be miserable forever? Definitely not! And does being single have to equal lonely? No way! You can have the best time of your life when you're single, but you wouldn't know that from our relationship obsessed society, where celebrity magazines devote the majority of their content to who's dating whom and the wedding industry is a $100-billion business. Yet more than a third of marriages end in divorce, and countless other couples languish in unions that shouldn't have happened in the first place.

Don't become a statistic—love yourself and never settle!

Jen Schefft knows that better than almost anyone. In 2003, she got engaged in front of millions of people on television's The Bachelor, only to see it end nine months later when the relationship just wasn't right anymore. A year later, she turned down an engagement on The Bachelorette, and the backlash was relentless. She was labeled a "spinster" by a celebrity magazine, and a noted national talk-show host remarked that she would be "a bachelorette for the rest of her life."

This is a terrible message to send to the millions of sensational single women out there, and in Better Single Than Sorry Schefft makes it her mission to let women know that it's better to be single than to be in a relationship that doesn't make you happy. With testimonials from women of all ages—single, married, in committed relationships, with children (even single moms) and without—this book tells you how to let go of your fear of being alone and how to love yourself and never settle for a relationship that is anything less than you deserve.

Written in a conversational style, as if talking with your best friend, Schefft helps you navigate the pressures of a culture that places an unhealthy importance on being in a relationship and shows you how to find happiness in work, home, and the simple pleasures of everyday life. Above all, she shows you how it's far, far better to be single than sorry. Being single is a time to have fun, learn new things, grow, and blossom—not a time to feel desperate or depressed, so cherish it!

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I just recently purchased "Better to Be Single Than Sorry" and I have to say I really enjoyed the book very much. I am 42 years old, single, no children, and not involved in a serious relationship (I chose my marital status by both choice and circumstance). In my twenties, I always thought about marriage, havng children with the "perfect man". I used to get jealous because all of my friends got married with kids and I was always the one left out. Now that I'm older and much wiser, I've come to realize that it's okay to be single and will never settle for less. Jen's book is truly an inspiration for me! This will help me and other single women all over the world avoid getting involved in a meaningless relationship/marriage.

This book got me through some of the hardest single phases in my life. I would recommend it to every single female friend and family member I have. Definitely buy this; it's the best of its kind out there!

This girl has no idea what she's talking about and she's trying to give relationship advice? Her problem is that she doesn't know the difference between settling and compromise! See, in a real relationship, you need to make compromises. But to her, she'll call it settling. Don't waste your time or money on this book, this girl is just plain confused.

So, overall I really enjoyed this book. I am not a fan of self-help books usually, especially those about relationships. However, I remember Jen from 'The Bachelorette" and I admire her bravery for not settling. This book is great for single girls like me who see their friends getting married and having babies left and right. I'm only 25 and in no mood to settle down anytime soon. So, it was refreshing to hear that I'm normal and that is totally okay to be single and loving it. However, towards the end of the book it veered off into a book about relationships- how to meet and snag a man and how to keep the relationship going. Wait? I thought this book had the word 'Single' in the title. It was great advice, but belonged in a different book.
But, overall I recommend this book for all those single girls out there who are seeing their friends "drop like flies", but refuse to settle themselves.

Life for single women today can be rough. It is very easy to cave into pressure to settle down quickly. Our friends, family, and society tell us that pairing up as soon as possible is a marker of success. No wonder there is such a huge divorce rate in the United States.

The author points out two very big mistakes we make. First, we do not love ourselves and secondly, because of that we settle for guys that are less than ideal for us.

She uses some hillarious anecdotes from her own personal life to illustrate some dating mistakes she has made and how it affected her. She points out that had she not tried to settle, she could have avoided having her heart broken so frequently.

What makes it good, is that it is true to life. All of us girls can relate to dating the types of men mentioned in this book and the results. She also helps us to remember that the right man is worth waiting for regardless of the pressure exerted on us.

The message is: Enjoy your life, do things you love, pamper yourself, and do not ever settle!

I cannot however agree with all the advice offered in the book. She suggests that having a one-night-stand might be a good way to get over a broken heart. This seems to be dangerously bad advice.

However I do recommend this book because the concepts of enjoying you life and implementing suggested tactics to avert pressure placed on you by others to marry the wrong person.

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