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Boundaries in Dating Participant's Guide by Henry Cloud, John Townsend, Dr. Henry Cloud, and Dr. John Townsend from Zondervan List Price: $8.99 Our Price: $8.99 Availability: Usually ships in 24 hours Shipping rates and policies

Paperback: 144 pages ; Dimensions (in inches): 0.40 x 8.70 x 6.00 Publisher: Zondervan; (April 01, 2001) ISBN: 0310238757 Average Customer Review: Based on 48 reviews. Amazon.com Sales Rank (Book): #95310

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All the immense value of the book is available in this participant's guide for groups of any size. It will encourage spiritual and emotional growth and character development that enables dating--within God's boundaries--to be fun, spiritually fulfilling, and growth producing.

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This is the most amazing book. These guys combine so much practical wisdom, so much insight into relationships. The idea that I should be sharing my opinions, preferences, likes--whether in music, politics, clothing, whatever ... the idea that I should be sharing this directly with someone as part of defining my boundaries is simply revolutionary to me.


Somewhere along the way, I started holding back on my opinions and preferences when meeting new people. That creates two problems: one, people do not get to see or get to know who I am, what I really like, what I don't like. So I am stifling myself, keeping folks at a distance. Two, others who want to find me (who like my preferences, etc. or who simply want to know me better) can get this information more quickly when I share it early on. There's so many other insights here about wisely choosing partners, about assuming responsibility for your relationships.

I'm going to read more of these guys' books.

One note--I delayed reading this book because of the Christianity. When I finally picked it up and gave it fair reading, I saw that the Christianity is extremely ecumenical and open. The authors quote passages from the Bible in ways that reinforce common sense and common insights from psychology and psychotherapy and relationships. No guilt or judgmental thing going on ... If you're not Christian, I think you still might like this book.

I am eager to begin to practice some of this stuff.

This book definitely keeps things in perspective. As a twentysomething, we get caught up in emotions and the physical not really seeing the whole picture. Boundaries in Dating is a great tool and reference when determining if the potential mate is someone to move forward with or run far from! A "Must Read" for you and/or great info to share with others.

The book was in good condition--as stated in the listing and the shipping was timely.

This is an excellent starting point for dating for anyone! Loads of good advice that everyone needs to know but that we don't somehow bring to the conscious mind at the time when it really matters. I think, though, to understand what creates our behaviour in relationships in the first place, you would be well-advised to also read Fit for Love: Find Your Self and Your Perfect Mate. This helps you deal with the subconscious programming that sabotages your efforts in relationships and that compromises your boundaries.

I have read this book and it changed my life. I learned the limitations to put in my life to protect myself from foolish mistakes. The boundaries are also given in the bible.....so confirmation of my actions based on my reading this book is given from the Highest.

I decided to give this book to a friend who is having dating difficulties.
If she takes the principles seriously and puts them into action....she will create her single life to be a more peaceful one.

I reccommend this book to all single people who are dating or who will be dating.

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• Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life
• Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't
• How to Get a Date Worth Keeping
• Changes That Heal: How to Understand the Past to Ensure a Healthier Future
• Boundaries Workbook: When to Say Yes When to Say No To Take Control of Your Life

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