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In the 34 years that I have been doing psychic counseling, it is only in the
past 10 years that I have been involved with couples counseling. One thing I
have noticed with many couples, whether those couples are a man and a woman,
two women, or two men, is that there is often a lack of real and meaningful
communication. This lack of communication causes small conflicts to become
heated arguments where issues are not resolved because both partners are trying
to make their points and are not even listening to what the other person has to
say. Nothing can ever be resolved when one person raises his or her voice with
what only appears to the other person to be demands. The effect of this is that
the other person feels as if they are being scolded like a parent scolds a
child and this causes the person to close up in a defensive posturing attitude
where they don't bother listening to what the other person is saying. This
intensifies the problem because when the person who is relating the problem
area in their life feels that they are being shut out, or ignored, by their
partner there is no meaningful dialog which allows a resolution to be achieved.
The only resolution to the problem is for one or both partners to bring the
subject up again, which might only create the same result. Instead of being
resolved this issue now smolders like a hot ember, and this can make for an
emotional forest fire!
The way I try to resolve issues like this is to teach couples how to discuss
issues instead of just yelling and having the entire situation turning into
World War III. There are several steps couples can take to have a good, open,
and loving discussion, and to reduce the friction in their relationship by
learning to resolve the very important issues that cause them to misunderstand
each others feelings.
One of the most effective steps I teach couples is to express their anger,
fears, aggravations, and concerns to their partner. This allows them the
freedom of opening up without the fear of confrontation. It is a very simple
method, but has certain rules which must be followed.
One of the ways I teach couples to do this is to encourage them to write a
journal to document the issues in their relationship which they feel are
causing problems. Detail is very important here. They must also devote an hour
of uninterrupted time each week for open discussion. This discussion has to
occur on the same day, and at the same time, and becomes a weekly ritual for
the couple. During this hour, each of the partners has 30 minutes to read from
their journal. While each partner reads their journal, the other partner cannot
interrupt, or make any comments. After this hour, I encourage each partner to
spend some time alone, and to reflect upon what they have just heard. They must
also remember not to have any discussion about what has just been said.
However, they can add some of this new information into their journals for the
following week's discussion. This method is not a quick fix for a troubled
relationship, but most couples are amazed that after several months they are
now working together to resolve the problems in their relationship.
One of the most complex interactions we face in life is the relationship with
our partners. There is often some initial spark which brings two people
together, but for a relationship to thrive it requires communication,
cooperation, and compromise. This is only one of the many techniques which can
be used to help couple resolve issues, but by teaching couples how to
effectively communicate, it helps to strengthen the foundations of their
relationship.
About the Author
George Ministeri
PsychicHelp@GeorgeMinisteri.com
http://www.GeorgeMinisteri.com
George Ministeri is an internationally acclaimed psychic, and intuitive
couselor with over 30 years experience. Visit his website at
http://www.GeorgeMinisteri.com to discover more about who
George Ministeri is and how his psychic readings have benefited his clients.
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