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The feeling of falling in love is of the most exciting, thrilling and life
changing events. Falling in love can change your entire outlook on life.
Falling in love can occupy your mind and seem to take away all of life's
problems. However, falling in love can bring about a serious problem of endless
heartaches if a person falls in love too fast. Let us look at what brings about
the feeling of needing to fall in love, what defines true love and the string
of broken hearts that can occur if one falls in love too quickly.
With these key elements examined, a person may realize that they are too
rapidly generating the feeling of falling in love, and in doing so, producing
unfortunate consequences. A life filled with a great amount of broken hearts
predictably points to a great amount of relationships in which the person fell
in love too quickly. Once acknowledged as a source of heartaches, one can
achieve a more realistic approach to falling in love and finding someone
special.
The majority of adult single people undoubtedly desire the ultimate feeling of
being in love with another person. Instilled in people's minds is that love
will bring happiness, safely and security. Most people are witness to a loving
relationship from a very young age, as we witness the love of our parents. As
adults, the media overwhelms us with love stories. Countless advertising
bombards us to find love. When one is single, it may seem that everywhere they
look; there are couples holding hands, talking and laughing together. This can
produce an overpowering desire for a person to find love.
Real and genuine love means connecting in ways that are almost indescribable.
Present are the key elements that each desire in a relationship. There is a
strong emotional attachment, as well as an intense physical attraction. The two
people in the relationship spent time thoroughly getting to know the each
other. These people will understand each other quirks and habits. They will
learn each other's history and the life that they lived up until they met.
After sometime, a feeling of comfort and admiration occurs. As cliché as it
sounds, if love is going to happen, both will have a feeling of "fitting
together" and "finding their better half". If both people involved in the
relationship are content and their desires fulfilled, as time moves on, an
increasing feeling of devotion and affection will change into a deep and strong
feeling of love.
Without these fundamentals in place, having the feelings of falling in love
exceedingly prematurely can result in needless heartbreaking outcomes. It is
true that being single can sometimes produce intense feelings of loneliness.
These feelings of solitude and wanting acceptance into a loving relationship
can make one push for a relationship that is not correct for them. Beginning to
spend time with another, sometimes a person will mistake the feeling of
acceptance for the feeling of love. Love is not something easily obtained. For
long periods, love can escape us, as we search for that someone special that we
wish for in our lives.
Telling yourself that you are in love, does not create love. If not all of the
essentials of genuine love are in place, convincing yourself that you are in
love does not magically produce those necessary elements. If in almost every
relationship you enter, you fall in love within a couple weeks or even days,
you must ask yourself; are you really in love?
Undoubtedly, falling in love produces a magnificent euphoric high. The emotion
of finding one's "soul mate" fulfills a deep desire to bond with someone. True
love is such a rare find. In terms of realistic expectations, one simply cannot
sincerely be in love with every person they meet or date. Allowing yourself to
feel you are in love with almost everyone you connect with, in a small measure
of time, only will lead to ultimate disappointment. Sincerely asking yourself
the question, "Was it really true love?" may give you the knowledge that
perhaps you did not actually experience love. This is not to imply you did not
admire someone, like spending time with him or her or had lust for him or her.
However, did real love exist? Comprehending that it did not, may lessen the
sense of feeling betrayed and the feeling of being wounded from relationships
gone astray.
To free yourself from being the victim of lost "love", give yourself the time to
unequivocally get to know and appreciate someone, allowing love to happen in
it's own due course. Do not impulsively rush into a state of feeling in love.
Seriously consider all of the factors that ensure a real and lasting love. Give
this feeling time to develop. Only then, can you truly know that you are in
love.
About the Author
Copyright 2006 Gary Caine
For more articles on love, dating, divorce and parenting visit Gary's 3 web
sites.
The Singles Cafe at http://www.singlescafe.net
Women's Home Page at
http://www.womens-homepage.com
Men's Home Page at http://www.mens-homepage.com