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Getting the right type of divorce advice depends on what type of divorce advice
you want and what you want to use it for. When looking for advice about
divorce, it is smart to clearly define what you are seeking the advice for so
you can be sure to look in the right places.
Seems simple enough right?
Yes, but...lots of people who are deciding about divorce and seeking divorce
advice lump the categories of divorce advice into one, and that's a big
mistake. You should seek divorce advice from different types of places for the
different types of advice that you need. Certainly there's more types of
divorce advice categories, but here's a partial list:
Divorce advice type 1:
Legal advice for getting a divorce when you are sure that you want a divorce,
no matter how tough it will be to get that divorce. When asking for this type
of divorce advice while meeting with an attorney, you may be asked if you're
certain that you actually do want a divorce...if you do, don't waver, stick to
your decision. It makes sense to have a good idea of all of the parts of your
life, family and materials, that could be affected or sought after. You want to
have your facts, account names, timelines, etc., in mind when meeting with the
attorney so that your discussion is maximized.
Divorce advice type 2:
Legal advice for getting a divorce when you are almost sure that you want a
divorce, but want to make sure that the financial considerations are in order
or that health of your children won't suffer in the long run. When asking for
this type of divorce advice, you may want to consider seeking the advice of an
attorney or financial planner for the financial considerations and a counselor
experienced in family matters for the impact that a divorce might have on your
children. The point is, split the two concerns up so that you get the chance to
speak to 2 different people who specialize in each area so that you will get
the appropriate divorce advice.
Divorce advice type 3:
Legal advice for getting a divorce in a case that is relatively simple and will
be a clean break, no financial or other family considerations to take into
account for the divorce. This is perhaps the easiest type of divorce advice to
get because it infers that you have already made the decision from an emotional
standpoint and really don't have any other considerations of deep concern. When
seeking this type of divorce advice, you most likely have limited financial
considerations, a prenuptial agreement, or the situation itself as amenable to
everyone and you just need someone to do the paperwork.
Divorce advice type 4:
Legal and/or counseling advice regarding whether or not divorce is right for
you from a psychological, emotional and financial perspective. When asking for
this type of divorce advice, you may want to consider seeking the advice of an
attorney or financial planner for the financial considerations and a counselor
experienced in Clinical Psychology and "personal-life" coaching for the impact
that a divorce might have on you. Again, the point is, split the two concerns
up so that you get a chance to speak to 2 different people who specialize in
each area so that you will get the appropriate divorce advice.
Divorce advice type 5:
Counseling for emotional support when deciding whether or not you really want a
divorce or are just unhappy in your marriage. This type of divorce advice is
crucial to your happiness because when you're in an emotional state, it is
tough to make lucid and rational decisions. And, if you're wrestling with
deciding whether or not to get a divorce (purely from an emotional
perspective), you should do all you can to make a logical decision because how
you approach this decision and the affects afterwards can be long lasting and
far reaching. If you're are struggling with finding divorce advice, you may
want to talk to friends, counselors, even other family members.
But, my divorce advice to you is, do it yourself.
I'm not saying don't talk with friends, counselors, and possibly family. What I
am suggesting is that you reach the final decision of whether to get a divorce
on your own, you have to live with it, no one else. The answer is inside you,
you just have to get it out in a logical manner.
Whatever type of divorce advice you need, be sure that you're directing your
energies in the right direction. If you don't separate the emotional aspects
from the legal aspects of divorce advice, you might end up confused and unable
to get the most out of any meeting you may have with an attorney or marriage
counselor. At the end of the day, you should control your own destiny and make
a smart decision based on logic, controlled emotion, and forward thinking.
About the Author
Karl Augustine Author, "A Practical Guide To Deciding Whether Or Not To Get A
Divorce". *A resource recommended by marriage counselors to their clients.
http://www.deciding-on-divorce.com/divorceadvice.htm
Reprinted from ArticleCity.com