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Reading through the personal ads can be a skill, an art in its own. You may
find that skimming through the personal ads has become your latest habit,
searching for the person that meets your profile needs and desires but without
success. Have you been looking for love but in the wrong profiles, or are you
searching for more that is not written in the lines of a personal ad? If you
read more into a personal ad than what is actually written in the profile and
in the pages of the personal classifieds, you may find yourself conversing or
dating a person that does not have the same personal dating ideas as you or the
same objective in a relationship which puts you back at the beginning of the
process again.
You already know that the listings in the personal section are from people just
like you, people who want to meet someone special to fit into their life so
starting with the personal ads is a great way to meet someone. However, maybe
you are reading the profile of someone wanting to find just a friend, or maybe
the profiles you are reading is someone that is also hinting towards a search
for love in a relationship. You need to be a distinctive reader.
The odds are in your favor when searching the personal ads for in finding a
companion or lover. You already know that if the profiles you are reading are
not seeking some type of friendship or relationship, they would not have
created a profile for others to review. However, the steps in deciding who you
will make contact with can be one of the most difficult in your search.
Your journey reading the personal classified section will require the need to
look within yourself discovering what you type of relationship you are truly in
search of. Are you searching for a friend, for a lover, or are you searching
for a true lifetime commitment? Whatever category you place yourself in, choose
the replies and profiles that meet your standards in your search for a
relationship helping you narrow your search, which will make the personals much
easier to sort through. If you would sit in front of your computer and continue
reading all of the personal ads presented, you may find yourself overwhelmed
with information and choices to be made. Narrowing your criteria and the idea
of what type of relationship you are searching for creates the best results.
If you are searching for a friend or companion only through the personal ads,
start with profiles that state this specifically in their profile, which you
will find many. In discussing profiles of those who are not looking for a
serious relationship, you may find the following phrases used: 'want to have a
good time',' not looking for a relationship' and 'not willing to give my heart
away', 'just want to spend some time with you' or 'seeking another with a great
listening ear'. There are various words used expressing friendship,
companionship and those just looking to date. Use these expressions and words
to help you sort through the personal ads narrowing your decision among the
many people listed.
Profiles of people searching for friendship use words that stick out like:
'looking for fun', 'friendship', 'no commitments', 'companion wanted', 'only
looking for a good time', 'need help in building my confidence', 'I want to
roller blade in the park all day', finding words that express fun and
friendship stating no commitments or relationship will help you sort through
the profiles you are reading.
Are you in search of that someone special to be more than just friends are?
Learn to read more into the written words. Find descriptions such as 'looking
for love', 'searching for that someone special', 'more than friends', 'quiet
and cozy', 'easy going and lovable', 'special times', 'treasured moments', and
words similar to 'lovable'.
So what about your profile, read over the words again. Does the profile really
express your thoughts about a relationship, what type of relationship you are
seeking and whom you are expecting to meet using the personal classifieds?
Deciding what type of person you are searching for, what qualities you desire,
and how far you want the relationship to mature are steps in realizing you are
taking the right direction for meeting that someone special through the
classifieds. Clarify your words, express your real thoughts and ideas about who
you are seeking clearly which will aid those that are reading your profile
connect easily with you.
Matching your personality and the relationship you are seeking with the
personal profile or description of another person that is seeking similar
relationships can be tough but using your feelings of what you want from a
relationship as a basis when reading and sorting through the personals is a
great beginning.
About the Author
Cheryl Lewis, freelance writer, married and mother of three. Based in the
Mountains of PA. Cheryl writes for
DrDating -- a web site for anyone looking for love online. We
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